T It usually takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to begin to put their lives back together again. It sometimes takes five years for individuals and families to get over the emotional pain and trauma. Many people can have serious health and emotional problems during this time. What questions should you ask yourself to make sure you're "over" the ex or that you don't have unresolved issues? Here are some questions that can help determine if you're ready to date after a breakup: * Do I act like an upbeat person? That is, have I established a normal, daily routine or lifestyle that is fulfilling to me? * Do I more often than not dream of my ex ... either good dreams or bad? * Do I find it hard to concentrate on my home life, work or recreation because my thoughts keep drifting back to the ex? * Do I avoid locations and spots (restaurants, clubs, etc.) that my ex and I used to frequent? * Do I maintain the behavioral expectations of my ex ... that is, do I keep behaviors that pleased my ex (i.e., fold the towels a certain way, wear only certain colors, set the table a certain way, etc.)? * Do I tend to compare people to my ex? * Does my body language more often than not send the message of defensiveness and rejection? * Do I feel excited about what my future holds? * Do I feel suspicion about the intentions of men/women? That is, do I think that ALL men/women are untrustworthy? * Is my judgment clear? That is, can I identify things that I learned from this relationship? There are many more of them too, u should get an idea to what this is about. if some of u have trouble with these questions then pretty much u failed. ur just not ready yet! But it is really up to u to decided anywayz.